I recently had a major opportunity fall through. It sucks... there is no other way to put it. It could have been huge for my family and it stung pretty bad. I'm not gonna lie, it took a shot at my confidence a little bit. I grind and I grind and I grind and sometimes you just want to get that BIG "W" that you imagined would come from all the hard work. After a 24 Hour Pity Party, I was able to bring myself back to life and took some time to reflect on what that missed opportunity really meant for the overall picture. I realized it wasn't that big of a deal because I believe that there are countless opportunities out there and the right one will come along at the right time, and I will be in the right place to receive it!
I also realized a few things about overcoming adversity:
1) It's okay to be down... for a SHORT period of time.
You're human, it's okay and natural to have some type of emotional reaction when you miss out on an opportunity, or you experience a failure. Just don't let it become destructive to your overall self image. Allow yourself a little bit of time to get over it, but make a mental decision that you will rise above the situation regardless of the unfavorable outcome you had to accept.
2) Revisit some of your previous wins.
Nobody wins all the time, and I'm willing to bet you have at lease a few wins under your belt. After your pity party, take some time to reflect on the times when you DID get the major account... or the time you did land that amazing client... or even the time that you did get that amazing job opportunity. You have won in the past... you are a winner. Never forget it!
3) Realize that adversity builds character and strengthens you.
You know that old saying, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." There is a lot of truth in that. These moments when you are experiencing setbacks are critical moments in your story. How you respond to adversity ultimately determines your success or failure in life, because no one... I repeat... NO ONE has ever done anything significant with there life without experiencing adversity along the way.
Hope this helps! I would love to hear about how you've experienced setbacks in the past and how you overcame them! Like, share and post in the comments!